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Rhee Helliwell | Sep 26, 2016

Helping your kids set and reach their goals

Categories: Education, Children, Tips, Performance

Setting goals is a fantastic habit to get into no matter how young or old you are. At Tutor Doctor we believe setting targets keeps children motivated keeps them studying and working hard. Helping your kids get used to regularly setting goals will ensure that they are productive, successful and continue to assess what they want to achieve when they enter adulthood.

What do your kids want to achieve?

Start by having a conversation with your child about how they’re doing, what they are struggling with and most importantly what they would like to achieve. Jot down their goals under different headings depending on the subject and how quickly it can be achieved. Remember, goals can be as small as getting a good grade in a project or as big as receiving excellent exam results across all subjects. It’s also important to always remind your kids that they can achieve anything they want to and that nothing is out of their reach!

Make sure goals aren’t overwhelming

Goals don’t have to be overwhelming or scary. Make sure you break down your child’s big goals into smaller, more manageable steps. This will turn something very difficult or ambitious into something attainable and most importantly achievable. For example, if your child wants to go up a grade in all of their subjects, sit down and make smaller plans on how they can achieve this. Maybe they need to spend an hour a day reading or perhaps a few hours a week with a private tutor? Setting deadlines for each of these smaller tasks will also help motivate your child and mean that they are constantly working towards achieving bigger ambitions. Finally, always remind your kids that it takes hard work and dedication to achieve goals -- and that miracles don’t happen overnight. Patience and persistence is key!

Don’t forget those goals!

Don’t forget about your kid’s goals, no matter how busy life gets! An easy way to do this is by making a colourful chart that is visible for you and your child; this way you can keep an eye on progress and they can see what they are working towards. Having a visual reminder and looking at it frequently also makes reaching goals that little bit easier.

Recognise effort

For many children goals aren’t always a walk in the park. If you can see that your kids are working really hard and conquering lots of their smaller goals, make sure you recognise their effort. Using small rewards such as a trip to the cinema or doing something fun with them will be sure to keep progress fun and help build up good habits. Rewarding hard work is not only a gesture of your love and support but it can really give kids an extra push to reach their goals and beyond!

It’s okay if goals change

It’s vital to be mindful that goals are not permanent. In fact they are flexible and it’s important for you and your child to continually re-evaluate their progress and what they want to achieve. Changing goals when necessary can really make the difference, especially if your child has become demotivated or a target needs to be made slightly more realistic for the time frame they have. Start by sitting down and listening to their point of view -- if needed you could even get them to re-assess the importance of a particular goal, or the smaller steps to reach it may need adjusting slightly. Revisiting and reassessing goals will also prevent your child from feeling as though they are failing and will ensure they stay on track.